“I cannot think of any need in childhood as strong
as the need for a father’s protection.”
– Sigmund Freud
If you think about it, men are potential fathers every time they engage in the natural act of intercourse, and of course women are potential moms. There is always that possibility of creating life when you enjoy what God designed, not only for procreation, but also for our enjoyment. Sex is exciting, it’s fun, and has a side benefit of getting your heart pumping for some good exercise! But, we can’t forget that nagging other aspect of sex; you can beget children. Wow, that can be a problem in the midst of all this fun.
So we know that sex can lead to pregnancy and yet, when it happens, we are shocked. The first thought for some men might be, “I’m not ready to be a father.” Such was the case for Toure’, a co-host on MSNBC’s, The Cycle, who thanked God that when he fell into a bad situation (apparently he had no control) that abortion was there to save his life (but not his innocent baby). Here are some of his words as Toure’ talks about abortion on the anniversary of Roe v Wade:
–“…It made me reflect on a moment from about 15 years ago, when I was in a committed relationship with a woman who I knew was just not the one. She also knew it probably wasn’t going to work out and then she got pregnant. And I was terrified.”
— “And in some ways that choice saved my life.”
–“I was not then smart enough or man enough to build a family or raise a child…”
–“I thank God and country that when I fell into a bad situation, abortion was there to save me and keep me on a path toward building a strong family I have now.”
I believe he was right; he wasn’t ready to be a father. Even though he engaged in practices that led to that very thing. But heck, let’s give him the benefit of the doubt, after all he “fell into” this bad pregnancy situation. And as he said, he was in a “committed relationship” that…wait…what did he say?? “Committed relationship”…that he knew just wasn’t the one. That’s real commitment. And it always works out so well when you have sex with someone who just “ isn’t the one.”
So yes, he was right. Not father material here. And not much of a man. He does admit that he wasn’t the man he needed to be. But he believes he’s man enough now to be a father. This father, decided that the children he has now were and are worthy of protection, but the one he wasn’t planning on could suffer the consequences of his actions.
He almost had second thoughts about his love of abortion when he saw the ultrasound of one of his present children. That baby fully formed by the 2nd trimester almost swayed him into rethinking his life-long support of abortion. But, logic took hold and this father couldn’t conceive of not allowing women to have control over their own bodies (oops, forgot about that little baby’s own body).
One of the many things that is so tragic in this father’s touting of abortion, is that he doesn’t give a thought to the amazing gift of adoption. How does an intelligent man, father, protector see abortion as the only answer?
This father thinks that when men discard their unborn offspring, this makes for a “stronger family” down the road? Did he forget that he is a biological father also to the child he conceived and aborted? He was a father to that child then whether he liked it or not, whether he was ready or not, whether he was man enough or not. His family includes the baby left in the abortionist’s hands.
Many of us who have been through abortion learn over time, if not immediately, how hurtful, how sad, how wrong, and how unrelenting the pain of abortion is. But this father makes abortion sound like the cure-all, and the panacea that frightened women and men can latch onto to save their very lives. This absolutely wrong and destructive diatribe comes from someone who has not listened to his own conscience. He almost got it when he saw the ultrasound, and his pro-choice ideas were “jostled,” but he let the self-preservation side of him take over. The easy way out. The route that protects yourself, and not your unborn offspring.
I thank God for the father who puts his children, born or unborn, before his own self-preservation, the father who finds options to abortion, the father who repents of involvement in abortion, and the father who speaks in the public square for life instead of death.
That’s a real father and a real man.
Link to Toure’ comments on abortion: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QbDNqlOSA9U
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