
You suspected something wasn’t right, you missed a period, you feel nauseous…what else could it be? But it can’t be, you just started college, you have plans, you can’t disappoint your Dad, your Mom. Plus, your boyfriend is not ready to be an adult, much less be a father to a real child. The only alternative is abortion, yeah, that’s the answer, no more worries, no more turmoil…life can go on and your plans won’t be disrupted. It will be life as usual.
But you may fail to take into account a few important details:
- You are pregnant—It sounds obvious but we sometimes forget to equate being pregnant with having a living, growing, baby inside of us. Life begins at conception. The heartbeat starts at 21-25 days. By 10 weeks the baby has fully formed little hands, fingers, feet and toes. This may sound harsh, but your baby will die in the abortion procedure and you can’t undo abortion.
- You have emotions—It’s not easy, no matter how strong and determined you are. And you may immediately begin to feel the emotion of losing your child. Some feel sadness or depression even before the abortion and some not until years later. Some even succumb to behaviors that will help them drown out and cover up the pain of the loss.
- Will your relationships survive an abortion?—This decision can take a toll on your boyfriend, husband, and/or family. It will always be there in the background. If you keep it secret, will you have to hide it forever from friends and family? How does this affect your parents, the grandparents? They will have lost a grandchild.
- The future—Many women are still reeling from the abortion they had years in the past. They suffer with guilt and shame and remorse. When you see women with babies, when you recall the day of the abortion, when you try to have another baby, will it be painful? And what impact will this have on future siblings? Will you tell them, and what will they feel about having lost a brother or sister to abortion? Many women lie on medical insurance forms, too embarrassed to admit they had an abortion.
- Is it safe or are there any health risks? What if something unexpected happens? Will I be able to have children after this? What do they actually do in the process of abortion?
